by admin | Feb 8, 2018 | Mindset
Much of the inner work that we do to experience more wealth, joy, health, and success has to do with realigning our thoughts about ourselves, our worthiness, our ability to create with the Truth of unlimited possibility. Super exciting, right? We get to empower ourselves with owning our thoughts, and choosing again when we detour into fear.
But one of the less appealing yet ever healing methods for transforming your life and living in grace and goodness is forgiving.
Ahhhh!! I can already feel the resistance. That word is such a trigger when you’re holding onto resentment towards someone who has most definitely done you wrong. You could tell your story to 100 people and 100 out of 100 would tell you your feelings are justified.
And still, practicing forgiveness, no matter how much of an asshole they were, is always, Always, ALWAYS necessary in order to live in peace.
Forgiveness isn’t intended to let the other person off the hook. It’s not supposed to profess the action as acceptable. Forgiveness is simply releasing the energy that you’re giving by hanging onto and revisiting the story.
Forgiving someone is saying, “I release you. I no longer allow my peace to be determined by your actions.”
(Forgiving doesn’t necessarily mean accepting that person back into your life either. Creating boundaries is one of the most loving things you can do for yourself and the other person.)
So how the hell do you actually practice the art of forgiveness?
I do believe it is an art. A beautiful practice that doesn’t happen one time and then you’re forever free. Forgiveness is a practice that happens daily, over and over again.
That doesn’t mean it has to be difficult or take a ton of time. Handing your thoughts over to God is a very simple and peaceful practice. But it takes the releasing of your ego and choosing higher thoughts.
Next time you have a thought towards someone that is anything less than love, try taking these steps to return from your thoughts of judgement back to thoughts of love.
- WAIT! What Am I Thinking? You are the thinker of your thoughts. In the present moment, the person who hurt you is only in your mind. Stop the thoughts and you stop the pain.
- Be willing to forgive. Maybe you don’t think you could possibly let go of the anger, resentment, or hurt but you’re willing to see things differently. This willingness is everything. As you hand over your attachment to these feelings, you allow God to work miracles on your behalf.
- Look for the blessing or lesson in everything. This step can take some work. And if you’re not ready yet, just give it over to the loving Universe who can help show you when the time is right. As soon as you can see that there is a spiritual lesson in every situation, you will free yourself from the bondage of the pain.
Remember that forgiveness is not for the other person. It is for you. Unforgiveness is like drinking poison expecting it to kill the other person. It is only killing you. Let go my love! Let go and let love.
Have you found liberation in forgiveness? Share your experience!
by admin | Jan 28, 2018 | Uncategorized
When you really, Really, REALLY want something, one of the most difficult things you have to do is to surrender.
Surrender is one of those very misunderstood words. It draws an image of letting a dream go and trying not to care about it anymore.
But when you surrender to God, you’re letting go BECAUSE you care so much you know that you couldn’t possibly take care of it as perfectly as God can. You are detaching from how and when it will come about. And being faithful in the present moment that it is already taken care of.
I think that the faith aspect is so necessary when it comes to surrender. There’s no way in hell God would ask you to give Him your deepest desires without promising that He will present them to you. The love of the Universe is always pouring out blessings and giving to you exactly what you desire. It’s timing is always perfect. And It’s timing is always forgiving. If you had a shit day and you missed your opportunity, another one is right around the corner.
If you grab a handful of water, it will all slip through your fingers and you’ll have nothing left. If you hold your hands open in a gentle and still cup, you’ll never go thirsty.
Grabbing and pushing and efforting to make something happen just doesn’t work. Even if you ultimately get what you thought you wanted, it will never make you happy. You must enjoy the process. How do you do that? Turn it over. Hand it over to the power of the Universe.
Imagine how crazy we are to believe that with our limited view of what’s going on, we really have any control over anything anyway. We tend to fuck things up more than help out, really, when we try to get involved. Figuring out how something is going to happen isn’t our job. Why would we even try? It sounds insane if you really think about it. Here God is, the creator of all things. Everything you need for survival is freely given to you. This world spins, the sun rises and sets, the seasons all come and go in perfect harmony. All without your help thank you very much.
So there’s this perfect order in all things, and here you come and say, thank you Universe for giving me oxygen, beating my heart, digesting my food, providing sunlight on my face, but in the area of my finances, I think I need to take care of that.
As if, God stopped caring about you after the essentials. As if His intention was for you to come here and struggle and want without ever receiving. As if you were sent here for an earthly trial to see how good you are before dying and going to some far away heaven where you finally are rewarded for all your turmoil and suffering! Could you imaging a loving, all knowing, all abundant father who has the ability to give unlimitedly actually putting their child through something like that? What the fuck for? OMG, no! That’s not how it works!
You were born to co-create with God a life that is filled with miracles. You were born with everything you ever needed to manifest every desire, big or small.
So don’t hold onto your dreams and desires with a vice grip determined that you can take care of it. Hand it over to God, to the Universe, to your all knowing Highest Self. Fully trusting that miracles will unfold. They will. It is His promise. He will never fail you. Stay open and allow the miracles in.
by admin | Jan 26, 2018 | Uncategorized
So you say you want to have it all? You want the life of your dreams? You know you can have it, you believe with all your heart it’s already yours. Can you see it? You can almost taste it!
So what the fuck are you doing about it?
Good luck having it all if you let fear win over faith. When that fearful voice shows up (because it WILL….no matter where you are, it will always keep coming back for more), do you shrink back down and start to believe that maybe you’re not worthy? What happens when that old voice that tells you you’re not good enough whispers in your ear? Will that memory from kindergarten, the one where the teacher made you feel like you weren’t creative because you chose the “wrong” color crayon, continue to convince you that others are doing it better than you anyway? Will regret of not taking action sooner keep you from taking action now?
Good luck living the life of your dreams if you want to meditate your way to success. Alignment then action. Not just alignment. You weren’t meant to do nothing. You intended, before you were born, to get your hands dirty. You wanted to play the game, not sit on the sidelines. You didn’t want shit just handed to you. If you did, you weren’t one of the souls to incarnate here on earth at this time. Are you here? Get to work.
Good luck seeing it to fruition if you don’t want to fall a few times and dust yourself off and come back for more. You won’t be perfect right out the gate. Know that. You won’t know how to do it all. Hell, you won’t know how to do most of it. If that scares you, get over it. Everyone goes through it. The ones who kept going anyway are the ones you know by name.
Good luck achieving greatness and using your talents if you want to blend in. Nobody wants a cookie cutter model for what you offer.
Decide that your faith in your vision is stronger than the illusion of fear. Give your energy to what you want, to your passions, to what excites you. Fear is nothing but your little mind afraid of your greatness. Show it that there is nothing to fear.
Decide right now that you will do what ever it takes. You’re a winner and that’s what winners do. Excuses don’t exist. Only solutions.
Decide right now that you aren’t here to impress anyone with perfection. The right people who need your gifts will stick around or appear exactly when they are supposed to. Fuck the rest. They don’t care anyway so don’t let them hold you back.
Set the expectation that some might unfriend you because you say fuck too often, use the word God instead of Universe, or speak the truth too boldly. Not everyone is going to like you, but if you don’t own who you are, nobody can like you for you.
So what’s it going to be? A life beyond your wildest dreams? A life of liberation, fun, adventure, carefreeness, and a helluva lot of money?
Or a life like everyone else where you blend it, live for the weekend, binge watch Netflix and wonder…..
what if?
by admin | Jan 23, 2018 | Uncategorized
Just as I think I have it nailed. I tell my friend, “I can’t believe it took me so long to really get it. But now, I get it. It all makes sense. Nothing matters except that I’m connected to God. And when I’m available to that Spirit, everything feels good, it flows, I see through the lens of possibility!”
In that moment, as I was speaking with her, I ignorantly but truly believed that I had arrived. Now that I knew what it was like to be in that energy, there was no way I was going back. The high was too addicting.
I can feel it again as I type this and it excites me. There is no denying that aligning with the power of the Universe is the most important action you can take. If there is just one thing to do today, or any day, it is align with the thoughts of God.
Just don’t beat up on yourself when one day you wake up and it’s….well….gone? No, not gone. You know it’s not gone. It’s there. It’s always there and available. But you can’t find it.
After that conversation with my friend, the next day that’s just what happened. I felt like my high had worn off and I wanted another hit but I just couldn’t find it. I never expected it to be gone. I thought that once I had discovered it, it was mine forever. I did the work. I had gotten there before. But it wasn’t working!!
I started to go down the checklist of all the “things”. I coached myself the way I would coach my best client. “Tap into the feeling!” Nope. “Change your thoughts”. Nope. Struggle. Grasp! Claw!
I knew that I had to give up the struggle. But if I just gave up the struggle, it felt like I was giving up. Doesn’t it mean I don’t care?
Remember that girl that you felt so bad for in high school who was so obsessed with that boy? And she was ALWAYS around and hanging on him and if only she would just give him some air to breathe maybe he would like her? But she comes off as desperate and clingy, which is a total turn off.
Get it? That was me. Obsessed and clingy.
Now, of course it’s not like I was turning God off. God wants me always even more than I want that connection. But the energy of neediness sends the message that I’m not allowing the flow of God in the present moment. Which becomes my experience.
So my message to you today is that there will be times when you feel tuned in and there will be times when you want desperately to be but aren’t. Give yourself a break when you aren’t. Stop struggling, striving, trying. Just relax and know that it IS there. Laugh. Walk. Take a breath. Release.
And when you least expect it, you’ll return to that loving energy that is always giving, always abundant, and always available.
by admin | Jan 17, 2018 | Uncategorized
You think that this world is so real. Looking around, touching, hearing, tasting. Our senses tell you that this is IT! And you react to what you observe about this world and about yourself.
I like that. I don’t like that. I really don’t like that. I can’t have that because I don’t have this. If I don’t see it, I won’t believe it. If that hasn’t happened yet, it means that something is wrong with me or I can’t do it.
You react to your observations with thoughts and eventually beliefs about how the world operates for you. And it feels like the truth. Again, because it’s what you see! Denying the physical world seems crazy because there is so much proof that you’re right!!
But this world is pliable, shape-able, change-able.
And it all comes down to the beginning of this post. You think that this world is so real. But the physical world is an illusion. It is a creation of your mind, shaped by your thoughts and beliefs.
You were never given the manual that told you of this power. You most likely weren’t taught how to believe in order to shape your world and life into perfection.
So you never realized that the thoughts came first, and then the physical manifestation. The observation, the focus- that came first. And your experience shaped and shifted to reflect those thoughts.
This could feel liberating or it could feel terrifying. But since you now know that your thoughts have creative power, let’s choose liberation, yes?
Once I discovered this incredible concept, I started to really watch my thoughts and try to figure out what I was thinking and believing in order to understand what I had created. I was on a mission to eradicate the blocks that held me back from success. I wanted to get rid of the feelings that were guiding me down a path I didn’t want to go. I would spend hours releasing the emotional ties I had to limiting beliefs.
I got really discouraged after all the work that I did to come to the realization that not much had changed. I was very aware of my blocks and where they came from. I was a master of Me 1.0.
What I wanted was to be Me 2.0. I wanted to believe that I could experience life in a new, exciting, unlimited way. So many others had testimonies of these huge breakthroughs and had experienced miracles and had all this evidence that our thoughts are changeable and the life really can be whatever you want it to be.
Going back to choosing liberation, the end of my story is this. I finally just made a choice. Instead of trying to understand the details of my limiting beliefs, I just decided to CHOOSE what I wanted to believe. I decided that, if I truly believed that there is a spiritual power beyond the physical, and that there are energetic laws that I can tune into to allow that spiritual power to create on my behalf (yes, and yes), then I would just choose what I wanted to put out there.
No more focusing on trying to uncover what’s holding me back. Now, I get to spend time aligning with what I want. I just step into who I choose to be. And when there is physical evidence that seems to prove the opposite to be true, I simply laugh and lightheartedly remember that that was Lainna 1.0. Lainna 2.0 is going to choose something else now. And then I do.
So who is You 2.0? What do you choose to experience from here until the rest of your life? What are your deepest desires that you never thought could come true? If they are within you, they are there for a reason. And the reason isn’t to tease you and keep you at arms length of your dreams. They are there so that you can fulfill them, realize them, experience them.
So take some time each morning and ask yourself what you choose to believe today! Today I choose to live in joy. Today I choose to be open to miracles. Today I choose to tune into my higher self and ask her what she wants. I then choose to be in alignment with that something. I choose to be guided and create my life from a place of power. I choose to be clear on my purpose. I choose to revel and roll around in the unlimited abundance that is surrounding me. I choose to remember that I can have anything I want. I choose to feel excited about what I now have, and I choose to feel content with this present moment because I created it. I choose to feel empowered that I know this now and I choose to also feel really excited about what is yet to come!
What do you choose?
