How to Make Jealousy Work In Your Favor

I swore I would stop reading it.  This blog written by a multi-million dollar coach kept triggering me,

angering me,

making me all kinds of jealous.

I hate feeling jealous.

So I decided to stop reading her blog and emails.  Kind of.  😉  I never unsubscribed, and then one of her headlines grabbed my attention, totally against my will, and forced me to open it!  hee hee

She was talking about traveling only first or business class, having insane amounts of clothes and shoes, living a pimp-ass life, and continually upleveling it in bigger and more expensive ways.

Basically rubbing my face in the kind of lifestyle I now envision, at least materially, for my life.

“YES!” I caught myself expressing.  YES!  OMG I almost forgot!  I’m so glad I didn’t allow this opportunity to pass without remembering the real reason why I was triggered over this email!

I was triggered because as I was reading the email, I had momentarily forgotten that the lifestyle I desire is also available for me!  I wasn’t feeling jealous because I don’t have the millions (yet).  I was feeling jealous because I forgot that it is possible.

If you understood the purpose of your emotions, you would no longer feel bad about feeling jealous, envious, or bad in any way.  You would use it as an opportunity to celebrate that your current belief is rubbing up against the Truth of your being and contradicting it.  It’s simply a warning sign that you are limiting your mind and cutting yourself off from what is possible.

Think back to the last time you saw someone else driving the car you want, living in the house that you dream of living in, married to the man you drool over.  You felt a certain negative emotion, right?  And you thought it was because you don’t have those things.

But you would be incorrect!  Bad feelings always mean one thing and one thing only.  They indicate misalignment from the way that your Source is viewing that same scenario.  So while you’re wishing your life would be more abundant, your Higher Self is reminding you that you already are.  When you feel like you’re not good enough or worthy enough or smart enough to be, do, and have what you want, your Higher Self is sending out a reminder that you are perfectly, you are enough, and you can have life exactly as you desire–first class, gucci style, custom home, hot romance and whatever else you’d like to order up.

And that reminder comes in the form of bad feelings.

So next time you feel bad, celebrate!  Thank your feelings!  Be happy that they exist!  Be glad that you’re aware of them!

Because when you’re aware that you’re misaligned, you can realign your hot ass back to Truth and return to the lifestyle and life that lights you up.

Here’s something else to realize as well, which will make manifesting the good life even easier for you.

If it wasn’t possible for you, you wouldn’t even be able to fathom the idea.  You wouldn’t even be able to imagine it….You couldn’t want it.  Just the fact that you have the desire is enough evidence that receiving exactly what you want is possible.

What you salivate over, lose sleep about, crave beyond craving, and covet at times, can be yours.  It IS yours to claim.  You can know 100% that it is yours simply by acknowledging the desire.  Do you want it?  Ok….DONE.  It’s seriously that easy.  When you place your order (which happens the nano-second that you desire it) it is instantly given to you.  Your job is to align your energy with this truth until it becomes manifest.

How do you align?

By saying yes to what feels good, following the nudges of your soul, not paying attention to circumstances to confirm what is True.

By taking steps…sometimes small and sometimes leaps…but step after step nonetheless, demonstrating to the Universe that you are serious about upleveling who you are and what you expect from life.  By being faithful in the invisible and not being attached to the specifics of your manifestation.  By choosing to be happy now and by looking for reasons to feel better one moment from the last.

By choosing what you want based on what lights you up instead of based on what your current belief system tries to convince you is possible.

By eliminating from your life anything that limits you or makes you question your worth.

By telling fear to kindly take a hike (after, of course, you see it for what it really is…a bad feeling pointing you to the Reality that fear is not real).

You align by putting into practice everything above like your life depends on it.  Because in a way, it does.

Are you gonna?  Will you do it?

I believe in you babe.  I see that Reality that you picture for yourself as clearly as you do, and I know that it’s right here right now.

So if you still waver on disbelief, you can borrow my rock-solid certainty that you can have all that you desire.

So now step up and out of your comfort zone, do whatever your Soul says yes to, and start living according to what feels good.

Anything is possible, your dream life is available, and you are damn worthy.

Now Is the Time, Don’t Wait!

Who is it that you want to be?  You have that burning desire within to become more, I know you do.

But you’re waiting!  You’re waiting for things to change.  For your circumstances to shift.  You’re waiting for confirmation from the Universe that you are worthy enough to receive.

If you continue waiting, you’ll continue waiting.

The Universe isn’t going to show you your worth.  The Universe is going to reflect back to you what you believe about yourself.  The truth is that you are worthy already.  You were born worthy and nothing you can do will diminish your God-given worthiness.  You have ultimate power to create whatever you desire in this lifetime.  That’s how worthy you are.

God has given you such power to create your life that you can choose mediocrity.  Is that what you want to do with your infinite power?  Decide what you want, and then get it.

When you wait for circumstances to change, the fact that you are waiting is the vibration you are demonstrating.  So guess what you’re going to see reflected back to you?  Reasons why you should wait.

But if you don’t wait, the world will meet you where you are and literally bow down to your every desire.

BECOME what you want.  BE the person who is living the life you desire.  BE IT NOW!

Literally do not wait.  Don’t wait!  What would you be waiting for?  YOU are the creator!

Waiting creates waiting!  Movement, doing, BEING creates situations that support you in being, doing, and having more!

Master the art of not waiting.  This is will accelerate your manifesting power exponentially.

Your life is a unique expression of God.  God wants to experience life through you and your unique “theme” in this lifetime.  EXPRESSION first.  EXPERIENCE first.  Experience your desires before they manifest!  Enjoy your manifestations before they become physical!

How do you want to live your life?

What are you waiting for?  What you wait for holds you down,

stops you,

slows down your vibration.

Don’t wait anymore!  How can you step up and DO more, BE more of who you want to be NOW?

Don’t continue reading until you answer those questions.

You can even write them in the comments!  Claim who you want to be!  Make a public declaration!

Decide now that you are not going to wait another day…another minute before shifting your consciousness and stepping into the person who you want to be!

And from that energy, take one inspired step; something that might scare you a little bit and expand your comfort zone.  When you expand your comfort zone, you start to see what you’re really capable of.

And I promise you, you’re capable of so much more than you can now realize.

You are capable of so much more than you will EVER realize!

Keep testing your limits.  Question what’s possible.  Step into your greatness.  It is there waiting to be experienced!

 

How Serious Are You About Receiving What You Desire?

You say you want that thing you want.  You want it so bad that you can hardly stand the excitement of it all!  Oh how wonderful life would be if only….

If only you could figure out a way to make it happen.  If only you could wave your magic wand and finally get what you want.

You swear you’d do anything if you just knew what that was.  The taste of success feels sweet yet from where you stand it also feels inaccessible.

But let me ask you, because it really does matter more than you know…How bad do you REALLY want it?  Are you really invested in your desires, willing to do what it takes to make it happen?

You say that you want that success, that money, that blissful state, that connection.  You know you can have it all and dammit you want it too!    But then what are you actually doing to be available to receive?

Are you doing the necessary mindset work to clear out the beliefs that now block you from allowing the life of your dreams to effortlessly appear in your reality?  I’m not talking about reading a book or watching an inspiring video and then just carrying on like, “la di da, I did the work.  Now where’s my stuff?”  I’m talking about a-p-p-l-i-c-a-t-i-o-n.  Are you doing the work.

Are you determined as hell to shift what isn’t working?  Are you completely intentional about the thoughts you allow to stay planted in your mind?  Is your vibration more important than pleasing other people, looking good, being right, or staying comfortable in your familiar world of discomfort?

Are you choosing thoughts and beliefs that empower you?  Or are you just letting the old thoughts that you’ve always allowed in your mind continue to poison your life as you stay strapped and limited in the world you’ve created?

Are you taking inspired action and following the breadcrumb trail that your higher self is setting out for you so that you are putting yourself into the flow of miracles?

Or is fear winning this war day by day?

Is the voice of fear and the possibility of publicly failing stronger than your dreams?  Fear does not matter.  It doesn’t exist.  YOU are creating it….giving it life.  You can pull the plug and stop giving it life support instantly and you’ll see it was never real.

Because if shit isn’t working in your life right this minute, I’m going to piss you off but it needs to be said….you really just don’t care enough.

You want it but not badly.  You choose comfort and familiarity over empowerment and possibility.

If your life was on the line, or the life of someone you dearly love, would you find a way to do it?  Would you drop the fear like a bad habit and just do the damn thing?  Would you just simply decide to take that first step and then the next despite the thoughts that might plague your mind?

I don’t have to wait for your answer.  Of course you would.

One of my favorite spiritual empowerment gurus, Bentinho Massaro, says that if you could do it, you can do it.

So you can.  You absolutely can.

But will you?

Does what you want matter enough to you?  Do your dreams, inspirations, the tugging at your heart, do they matter?

Don’t “yes, but…” me.  Please just don’t.  What you say after “…but” has zero value and no truth.

You came here to have certain experiences.  The desires placed on your heart are there because YOU were meant to have them.  You were born for it!  Every single earthly desire that lights you up was meant for you to have.  From the physical, tangible, material objects like that beautiful rose gold mac book pro and the amazing, exhilarating shopping sprees with bags of gorgeous clothes draping both arms as if in a movie shot on Rodeo Drive, to the deep, purposeful work that will change lives in the process.  From the stuff to the overflowing joy of life.  ALL OF IT is spiritual.

And all of it was meant for you.

I have a belief that when we die, we get to review our lives and then see what was really possible without the self-imposed limits that we allowed to hold us back.

When I review my life, I want to be as close to the the pinnacle of possibility as I can be.

That wasn’t always the case.  I allowed the fears and beliefs to limit me for over a decade.  And that was while I was learning all of the mindset and manifesting stuff!  I was reading the books, taking the courses, attending the seminars.

But I wasn’t doing the MF work!  I was waiting for things to change so that I could apply what I knew.  I was waiting until my debt was paid off before I could start believing that I was wealthy.  I was waiting until my business started thriving so that I could start implementing the idea that I was successful.  I thought that my problems were bigger than the solutions that my higher self had for me.  So that is what I created.

How powerful!  Do you see just how powerful we are?  We are so damn powerful that if we choose problems over solutions then we keep ourselves stuck!  That’s power!

But now I use my power in a different way.  I don’t use it to keep me in a mental prison of lack, limitation, and “when-I-have”.  I use it to create a life I’m madly in love with.  I use my power to align with the blueprint of my life and start living like a rock star!  I use my power to give fear the middle finger and start living my purpose.

I use my power to imagineer life with no limits.  I use my power to tap into the infinite energy that creates worlds that is available in unlimited quantity for me!

It starts with a choice and it continues with complete dedication to do whatever it takes until it sticks and then keep doing it because life is all about creation.  YOU are the creator; the chooser.

Create with intention.  Dream.  Realize your power.  Wake up!

Anything is possible.

What life do you choose?

To Get Unstuck, First Accept

If you ever intend to get unstuck from where you are, you’re first gonna have to accept that you’re here.

You don’t have to like where you are, and you don’t have to decide to stay here for another minute.  But you MUST recognize that you are here now.  This is acceptance, and it’s a necessary first step for freeing yourself forever.

You aren’t going to stay stuck if you notice where you are.  You can’t make an effective plan to get from San Diego to Manhattan unless you identify where your trip begins.  Same thing for creating a life that empowers you.

Where you are is where you are.  Don’t make it wrong, or insignificant, or bad.  It just is.  The instant you can just be here in this present moment without any resistance or need to be somewhere else before you feel happy, satisfied, or fulfilled, you shift your reality and start heading in the direction you want to go.

The outer journey begins within.  It begins with a feeling and a choice of thought.  Just leave the physical manifestations up to your Large Self, who already has a handle on providing you with your hearts desire.  You focus on your vibration, which lines you up with what your Large Self wants to give you.

Of course you want more.  You’re a creator!  You’re always going to be reaching for new manifestations, new adventures, new creations, new experiences.  That’s what you DO!  But if you wait until that next thing happens before you allow yourself the freedom to feel free, then even when that new event comes into your life, you won’t be satisfied.  You’ll always be reaching for something more.

I was stuck in this mindset for the majority of my adult life, and I can tell you that the trips, the money, the attention, the (fill in the blank for what you think will bring you happiness) will never be enough.  I had a little and I had a lot and I was never happy until I made the decision to be.

So you are here.  Here you are.  Awesome!  Isn’t that great to know!  Isn’t it amazing to see your life and all that you’ve accomplished and decided and manifested because of your unique story?

And isn’t also great to know that you are in complete control of the outcome of your future simply by making subtle shifts in the way that you feel?  Once you recognize where you are and how you currently feel, you can feel your way to a better feeling vibration, which is the fastest way to get you where you want to be.

Can you look at where you are from the eyes of wonder?  Can you shift the way that you view your experiences?  Can you own the fact that you have created your entire reality with the thoughts you’ve thought and that you can continue to create consciously with new, more empowering thoughts right now?

I’m giving you 4 steps that will not only help you drop the resistance that you feel towards where you are, but will also move you in the direction of having what you really want.

  • Shift your perception about your circumstances– Find satisfaction in this present moment.  Your current reality isn’t good or bad.  It just is.  And how you choose to look at it now is shaping your future experiences.  Start focusing on what you like and what’s working and you’ll start to witness more of that.
  • Look at your past with love– Using the present moment to hold grudges and judgments of the past is the fastest way to stay stuck indefinitely.  Honor your past experiences, forgive yourself and release anyone else that you’re holding judgement towards, and wipe the slate clean completely.
  • Set your intention for what you want– You are the creator of your reality and you can have anything you want without exception.  Intend to create what you want, and focus your energy on being a co-creator with God.  Then allow the guidance that is available.
  • Live with the mindset of the person you choose to be– What would you be thinking, how would you be acting, who would you be BEING if you were the person who was living the life that you want?  Adopt that mindset NOW in whatever way you can, even if it challenges you a bit.  Ask for help from the Divine and step into BEING that person now.

Allow yourself to begin here…now.  This is your starting point.  This is your bouncing off point.  Every single experience that has brought you to now has created the desire for more.  Be thankful.  And then keep your eyes pointed ahead, on what you choose to create from this point going forward.  And then take it easy.  You will get to wherever it is you want to go if you simply keep your eyes focused forward.

Are You Working Too Hard at Manifesting?

Manifesting what you want isn’t supposed to be difficult.  You working hard at getting it right isn’t going to make things happen any faster.  Actually, you’ll be slowing yourself down considerably, doll.  The most natural thing you were ever meant to do is manifest.  You knew, before the day your little ass made it to planet earth, that you would have the power to create a life that you desired.  Whatever you want….you can have.

Easy.

Simple.

And you also knew that there would be contrasting experiences to help you decided what you wanted and what you’d rather do without.  There was nothing wrong with the idea of seeing things you didn’t want.  The contrast was there to help you choose something that made you feel better.

You had the realization that once you noticed something you didn’t want, you would immediately make the vibrational request for it’s opposite.  And when you saw/experienced something you did like, you would ask for more.

The asking part of creation is already done on auto-pilot.  It takes no effort on your part whatsoever.  You can take it easy on the trying to manifest.  It’s just not necessary.  You’re already doing it, weather you’re conscious of it or not.

And once you’ve asked, the Universe just hands over the goods.  It’s done.  Ask and it is given.  BOOM!

The part you have a hard time with, if your desire hasn’t reached your hands yet, is the allowing part.  You got so gosh-darn focused on what you don’t want or what hasn’t manifested yet that you hold your attention there instead of tuning your vibration to what you want instead.  It doesn’t take any work at all, but maybe a little effort of change in focus.  Pretty easy if you simply intend for it to happen.

Here’s the deal.  Your creation/manifestation is given to you in vibrational form and fully manifests into the physical when you align your vibration (which is allowing).  You must tune your vibration to what you want instead of staying tuned into what’s not working if you want to be able to bring your desire into form.

But here you are, looking at what you don’t have and what’s not working, getting all frustrated with yourself and thinking that maybe the timing isn’t right or God doesn’t want you to have what you want.  But it’s nothing like that.  You’re just not allowing.

So to make the physical world bend to your command, you start doing all this crazy work like visualizing and affirming and journaling and praying (ALL of which are FANTASTIC when used appropriately) from a place of LACK and NOT having.

The Universe’s hands are completely tied because you’re worry and recognition of your unfulfilled desire is what’s dominant in your vibration.

All that hard work on your part to get the Universe to hear you is completely wasted!

Your job isn’t to MAKE it all happen. The reason why you might want to visualize or affirm or do any of those cool, high-vibe tricks is to keep you in a state of allowing.  When you’re in the energy of your desires, intentionally holding that vibration firm in place is easy to do, it’s fun, and it works!

But working from a place of lack and effort to attract something to you is pointless.

You’re working too hard.  And you’re going about it in a futile way.

Consider these steps that I’ve learned to love through the teaching of Abraham Hicks, the master teachers from the non-physical.

Step 1:  Ask.  You do this without even knowing it.  You are always asking based on your preferences in the present moment.

Step 2: It is given.  The Universe takes care of this, so you can just skip over it completely.  Just realize that once you ask, the vibrational version of your request is always a yes!

Step 3:  Allow.  Here’s where most people get hung up but it’s only because you haven’t really made your vibration the most important part of your life.  You let other people’s opinions or conversations keep you out of allowing, and you basically down-right refuse to shift your thinking until your physical world changes.  It’s stupid (sorry, not sorry) because it blocks you from receiving your blessing.  So stay stubborn all you want, but you’ll never get anything that way.  Instead, make your inner state of acceptance, satisfaction, and joy the most important part of your life.  Have a “no-matter-what” attitude about staying high-flying.

Step 4:  Getting good at step 3!  You are less concerned with the way that things are and you’re more deliberate with managing your vibration.  Use every opportunity to clean up your vibration a little bit more.  You can completely change the subject or your point of focus, or find something about what you’re focused on to feel good about.  Either way, you’re raising your vibration deliberately and getting back into the state of allowing.  (I have some advanced tools that Abraham doesn’t teach which I will go into on another post later and will link here when I do.  But this process is complete even without them.)

Step 5: Be okay with step 1 (welcome the contrast)!  When you experience contrast by seeing something you don’t want or feeling a way that is uncomfortable, just be okay with that.  Realize that you’re “shooting off rockets of desire” (Abraham’s words) every time you experience something you don’t like.  So instead of freaking out that you’re in a funky place, celebrate that you’re creating more to be happy about later.  You don’t need conditions to change or be something in this red hot minute in order for you to be satisfied.  You’re realizing that you are the creator and that what you’re seeing/tasting/touching/hearing/feeling right now is from your past focus.  Your present experience is a past vibration.  In order to stay in your power, you cannot be conditional about your joy or feeling good.

Fine tuning your vibration is all you have to do.  The more high-vibe you stay on the subject of your desire, the easier and faster what you want will come to you.  But even in the absence of your physical desire, you will feel good/be happy!  And isn’t that the ultimate goal anyway?

 

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